Category: Space Between Us
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What One Person Calls Too Much
The quality hasn’t changed. The relationship around it has. Some of the most meaningful relationships in my life have been with people who are very different from me. They’ve had different personalities, different ways of thinking, different strengths, and different ways of navigating the world. I’ve never been particularly interested in surrounding myself with people…
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The ART of Repair™
The relationship matters, but good intentions are not enough. One of the things I often say to my clients is that I love the etymology of words. Much to their amusement, I have a difficult time accepting a word at face value. It’s very psychotherapist of me. I want to know where it came from,…
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What Are You Being Exposed To?
A conversation about workplace safety that changed the way I think about psychological health. One of the things I enjoy most about being a therapist is learning about other people’s worlds. Over the years, clients have taught me about engineering, construction, education, healthcare, emergency services, childcare, manufacturing, and even the adult entertainment industry, to name…
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The Hierarchy of Relational Safety™
Reducing relational hazards, understanding ourselves, and creating the conditions where curiosity can survive. One of the things I find fascinating about relationships is that people are communicating all the time. They communicate through words, certainly, but also through timing, silence, distance, generosity, certainty, humour, boundaries, withdrawal, repair attempts, and sometimes through the absence of repair.…
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When Potential Outlives Participation
Holding onto possibility while learning to live with reality. One of the more difficult lessons I’ve been learning lately is that seeing potential in a relationship does not create a relationship. Participation does. I didn’t arrive at that insight because someone taught it to me. I arrived at it because I found myself caring about…